Dark Night of the Soul...or just lazy...?

Recently, I heard Beth talk about experiencing a "dark night of the soul," a time when finding and feeling God is just hard.  God and I were talking about it on the way to work one day.  I have been going through some stuff...not outward struggle or circumstantial difficulties but times of just struggling with God...trying to figure out what He wants from me, trying to be obedient and faithful in who He wants me to be, wondering why things are happening the way that they are or not happening as it may be...sadness, joylessness, discontent.  After hearing Beth speak, I wondered is that what this is?
Wikipedia defines dark night of the soul as a phase in a person's spiritual life, marked by a sense of loneliness and desolation. eh...not bad considering the source.  Beth described it as being able to know God is there in what you see around you but not feeling His presence.  I think that the dark night is a place God takes you in your walk with Him purposefully to teach something...a very hard lesson.  He is always there but somehow less evident. 
So, like I said, God and I were discussing it in the car one morning(...a clue, no?).  Very clearly and very loudly, He called me lazy.  I am not finding Him because I am not really seeking Him.  We talk all the time...constantly, but I am not truly seeking Him.  I can blame it on tons of things, but I have gotten out of the habit of seeking Him in His Word.  It is my fault...my sin.  Sin is never the cause of a dark night of the soul...sin causes actual separation.  I heard Him.